Marriage

Is marriage a good thing? To listen to the media it isn’t. It is made fun of and down right degraded all over the place. It is common to tell young people to delay marriage for as long as they can. I differ greatly in this opinion.

God made us to enter puberty in our mid teens (or earlier). He also told us to remain celibate until marriage. To give someone the “drive to reproduce,” so to speak, but not allow them to engage in such behavior for some 15 YEARS (as many Christians in our society try to do) could be construed as CRUEL! God gave us these feelings and they are good (VERY GOOD!) but it is dangerous to use them in a context other then than the one He made for us. Disease, violence, broken hearts, children without mommies and daddies all result from not following God’s plan, which is marriage between one man and one woman in the late teens or, at the most, early twenties.

I believe we should be encouraging our children to marry as soon as possible and we should be actively training them in the skills needed for this. Young men should be encouraged to get into a line of work that can support a family as soon as possible, as well as developing their leadership skills. Young women should be taught all about running a household; cleaning, cooking, child development, teaching (including algebra, geography, science, history, grammar, etc.), nursing and medicine. Both should be taught the difference between needs, wants and desires, and they should be taught contentment and reliance on the Lord and what His Word says.

I married at age 18. Hubby was 20. That was 22 ½ years ago. My marriage is a success because our parents prepared us for adulthood, not perpetual childhood. We honestly were ready for marriage at that young age. My grandmother also married at 18 and my great-grandmother at 14(!). both were happily married until “death did them part.”

Unfortunately, many have no choice. Marriage is a two person contract and our society has made it downright stupid for a man to marry; free sex whenever he wants with no strings, and if her marries he stands to loose all his financial assets in the divorce all while still having to do his own laundry. Many, many young men today are simply waiting until their late twenties or even thirties to consider marriage. This puts the young women in the position of having to wait until their fertility has dropped more than 50% and they are in the habit of relying on themselves for everything. So much for “freeing” the women. We have been “freed” from all the good things of life including respect of our s**uality, motherhood, wifehood, and queen-ship of our castles. Yeah. Thanks, Steinem and Friedan.

Here are some articles on the subject:

“For decades, marriage has been viewed with the same kind of disdain as wearing pantyhose. Sometimes it's necessary, but put it off as long as possible; when possible, avoid it; "
Great list of reasons why marriage is a VERY GOOD THING!
ithttp://makinghome.blogspot.com/2006/09/marriage-great-liberator.html

‘Reflecting on "The Mystery of Marriage"’
http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001244.cfm