from my book "The Famiy Unit."
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Marriage has two purposes. The first is to demonstrate God’s relationship with the church. It is a living object lesson for us to see.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it;” Ephesians 5:25
Polygamy would demonstrate God having two or more brides, which He doesn’t. There is only one Church.
“So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.” Romans 12:5
“A bishop (what we call a Pastor today) then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;” Timothy 3:2
The leaders of the church are to set the example of monogamy. There are no examples in the Bible of healthy families from polygamous marriages. They are a recipe for disaster.
Homosexuality demonstrates that God doesn’t need the church but should find another God to be His companion; or that the church doesn’t need God, but should just find another church to fellowship with. This of course is ludicrous.
Romans 1:26-28 “For this cause (the denial of God) God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: (lesbianism) and likewise also the men leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men (homosexuality) working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; (Men are not designed to have sex with men)”
Homosexuality is not a genetic inheritance, contrary to what the gay advocates would tell you. It is the result of environment, and a series of decisions made throughout life (The vast majority of gays were sexually molested as children, and come from homes with physically or mentally absentee fathers). We choose what attracts us by the thoughts we choose to dwell on. God makes it clear that homosexuality is a sin. It is a violent, unhealthy lifestyle.
“What about monogamous gay couples?” This is a lie perpetuated by the media and gay advocates. It simply is rare enough to say that for all intents and purposes it doesn’t exist.
And as with all sin, there is help. Those caught up in this lifestyle can ask for God’s forgiveness and receive further help through http://www.sbministries.org/members/sbm
The second purpose of marriage is to produce godly children.
Malachi “And did not He make one? Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That He might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.”
The results of a marriage that does these two things are that the needs of both parties are filled; they have companionship, sexual fulfillment, an efficient division of labor, and a life of enjoyment. These are not the purposes of marriage, but the rewards. We must be careful not to confuse the results with the purpose.
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