Why feminists are wrong

Most feminists say they believe that all humans are exactly the same, regardless of sex (though I have noticed most act like they think women are better, smarter, and more noble than men). They take this belief to its logical conclusion; that the outcomes of life should be equal.

Genesis 2:18 “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

To say that men and women are the same is to say that God didn't really know what He was doing when He made them or that the Bible lied about beginnings.

This does not mean that woman is inferior to the man anymore than the cow is inferior to the horse. If you want to ride somewhere, the horse is the obvious choice because God has designed it to be ridden. But if you want milk for a large family or small village, you had better have a cow. The horse just won't cut it. God designed men to lead the family and women to help. It takes the inborn talents of both to accomplish God's will. They are a team working towards the same goal.

The Bible says that women were created in the image of God.

“So God created man(kind) in His own image, in the image of God created He him; male and FEMALE created he them.”

When women quit caring for their own in the pursuit of mere money, we loose all that is clean, orderly, beautiful, gentle, caring, nourishing, and secure of the image of God. We no longer experience these traits of His in the cradle, kitchen table, nor school room at the hands of our own mother. Nor in the sick bed at the hands of our sisters, mothers, wives and daughters. We still have the strong, just, and logical image of God through our men, but this makes the view of Him so lopsided. Without both we have an inaccurate picture of God. Without both, we can not know God completely.

The Bible is clear that the marriage relationship is an object lesson for our relationship with God. What we want from our husbands (love, affection, protection, leadership) are what we should be looking to God for. What our husband wants from us (respect, intimacy, obedience) is what God wants from us. We learn from each other (men and women) what the church's relationship with God should be. God tells us to unconditionally obey our hubbys. He wants the church to unconditionally obey Him. Jesus died on the cross for our sins. God tells hubbys to love their wives enough to do the same for their wives. And when we are intimate with our hubbys our family just might grow. When we are intimate with God, The Family of Heaven grows. (If you want to be treated as an equal or better, submit to your hubby. Yes, that’s right, submit. God put two main instincts in men: compete and protect. If you are pushing for your rights, your opinions, he will instinctivly respond with competition. If you submit he will instictively respond with protection and even promotion. God told us how to get what we want; quit trying and just submit.)

In the early 1900's a group of lesbian/socialist/feminists began the original modern feminist movement (Rome and most other major empires had their own movements-just before they fell). Some churches over the next few decades had a backlash, often forgetting to preach to the men about “love your wives” while they were preaching to the women about “submit to your husbands and Keep at home.” This (and other societal issues) fueled the back-backlash of the sixties and seventies (The second feminist revolution). The little girls (and boys) that grew up during the seventies and eighties have been brain washed by this movement. Our textbooks in school didn't dare to show a female doing anything domestic. A father and son in the kitchen, wearing frilly aprons even, baking cookies was ok; But let them show a woman and all hell would break loose. We have been brainwashed.

I don't know about you, but being manipulated and lied to makes me MAD. Our social input has been very carefully controlled from the time we were very little. All dissenting thoughts were shamed out of the mainstream discourse (media) and especially the schools.

I have news for you: women who allow themselves to learn about domestic skills very often discover that they are FUN and mentally challenging (Oh, and women LIKE having babies. Birth control, in my observations, is usually for the purpose of freeing the man from supporting so many children. Many women really want more, but their hubbys veto it.) Housework is not the mindless drudgery it is portrayed to be. In fact, I find it far more stimulating than any job I held outside the home. Yet, little girls are intentionally encouraged to take wood shop while the boys are sent to cooking class (which actually focuses on institutional cooking not domestic chores. Home Ec doesn't teach about caring for the home but focuses on preparing for outside carriers. It is as if no one really has homes to care for or your own home isn't important enough to learn about.)

We (the first and subsequent TV generations) grew up with perfectly beautiful people in perfectly beautiful homes doing perfectly beautiful jobs...both mom and dad (Anyone remember the Huxtebles? Doctor married to a lawyer with beautiful kids and a house that was not ever dirty? I think they showed her carrying a feather duster once in the whole series. That was the only cleaning the whole house ever needed; And he was shown cooking more often then she was.) We seldom or never saw traditional roles, especially for women. If we did see a woman doing woman's work it was greatly down-played or even degraded.

Garbage in garbage out

Most women today have lost the vision of what being a woman means. They tend to think that because they put a bra on they are being a woman even though they live the same life as the men. Many of us are so busy being pseudo-men that we don't even think about what makes a man different than a woman.

“If a man does not provide for his own, especially those of his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel (nonbeliever).”

Men are the providers. They may do this by building or conquering, selling or serving, but they are all to provide for their families. This was their part of the origional commad to Adam in the garden. In addition…

“In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground;”

A woman who leaves her family to make money, is accepting her husband's curse.

A woman at “home” doesn't mean more shopping trips to the mall though, or sitting in front of the TV and eating candy. Womanhood is a distinct calling unique to femaleness that is being done badly in our society or not being done at all.

Instead of one woman ministering to another in her greatest time of need, childbirth, in the safety and comfort of her own home, through midwifery; we have impersonal Obstetricians that don't know us and don't have the time to really care for us in the many ways we need it at this time (and how can a MALE OB possibly understand anymore than the clinical description of birth? He certainly has never done it.) One study I heard of found out that having another female in the delivery room substantially reduced the amounts of medicine needed by the mother even if the woman did nothing but sit in the corner. We need each other at this time. God made us that way.

The story that really set me on the path of studying this issue was one that took place in a church of 200 members. One woman had a miscarriage. She, of course, was grieving the loss of her baby and needed a time of physical recovery. The secretary of the church called every woman in the congregation. NO ONE could go care for and comfort this woman. They were all too busy with their jobs. (One woman, a school teacher, finally was able to arrange a couple of days off.) How many ministries within our own churches are being left undone because we are too busy obeying our bosses? No wonder the world is not all that tempted by us. We are no different than they are in carrying for our own.

Instead of a child being cared for by his loving mommy that thinks he is the most beautiful thing on this earth; who is trying to give him the best start in life; we have minimum wage child care providers and nannies. Hirelings. People who care for a child because it is a way to get a paycheck, not because they love that child.

“But he that is an hireling, and not the shepherd, whose own the sheep are not, seeth the wolf coming, and leaveth the sheep, and fleeth: and the wolf catcheth them (the sheep), and scattereth the sheep.”

No one can care for your children like you can.

Instead of a child being taught at the feet of their mother, who has known him since birth; he is educated at the government schools by some one who doesn't know him from Adam and won't know him a few months from now.

Deuteronomy 6:7 “And thou shalt teach them (God's Words) diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up (Every waking moment).”

Ephesians 6:4 “And, ye fathers (Greek word Parentis, means parents), provoke (frustrate) not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture (culture) and admonition (education) of the Lord.”

Our houses are cleaned by maids, or not at all, making them no more homey than a hotel, for it is the investing of self into the home through cleaning, caring and decorating that makes it a home.

Our food is cooked by McDonald's and Swanson and lacks the flavor, color and nutrition of a meal prepared by loving hands. People eat too much and too rich of foods trying to satisfy that hunger for home. It will never be found in a hamburger wrapper but in the arms (and frying pan!) of a loving woman.

Our sick are cared for by dedicated, but generic nurses. In times past the sick were cared for by their own loving mothers, sisters, wives and daughters. Government hirelings can't compare to the care given by your own family. Home health aids are nothing more than surrogate wives and mothers. (There are, of course, times when illness is so severe that professional nursing is the only answer. That is not what I am talking about. I am talking about women intentionally letting strangers do what they are perfectly capable of doing themselves; everyday elder care and low level nursing.)

Speaking of surrogate wives, the feminists (who appear to abhor anything feminine) are generally for legalizing prostitution. It only makes sense to farm out this part of womanhood to a nameless, faceless body just like any other part.

“You just want to make women to be second class citizens again.”

What do you think made women second class citizens before? Because they didn't generally earn money? That is the only answer I can come up with. Women certainly were well respected. Far more respected than they are today, in fact. (When was the last time a man gave you his seat or opened the door for you? These are signs of respect shown to dignitaries and people we revere. And there are very few poems written about fathers, but the ones written about mothers would fill a multi-volume set of books.) In most areas, women were allowed to own property, same as a man (Only the man's name was on the deed because a married couple was considered one intity. If he died she still owned the property). A lot of them were partners with their husbands in their businesses. Those whose families would literally starve if they didn't have two incomes, found things to do at home WHILE caring for their families to supplement the income (taking in wash and sewing were the most common). And I am not sure the right to vote is a blessing (Imagine not having to worry about politics? Just kidding:-)The laws stating that only land owning males could vote were designed to give each HOUSEHOLD one vote. It was assumed that an entire house believed the same and it would be unfair for those with adult children or grandparents at home to have more votes than a family with only small children.

There, of course, were some jerks that treated women like property, but that hasn't changed any. If anything, it has gotten worse. Ask my cousin that worked in the local domestic abuse center.

So the only thing I can figure that feminists are talking about is money. This means they do not value anything that doesn't earn money; that isn't “man's” work. How sad.

Women were vital to society. They nursed the sick, taught the young, nourished bodies, made homes out of houses, and kept the family running, often all in the same day. Like the Proverbs 31 woman, some found ways to supplement their family's income while doing their normal homemaking duties. Without women, life would have ceased to be worth living, and most men knew it, too. But because they didn't go out and earn a paycheck, many women today think their ancestors were poor, abused things; Second Class Citizens.

Fascinating. If my neighbor gets minimum wage to kiss booboos and fix lunch, that is empowerment but if I do the same thing in my own home for my own children I am a second class citizen.

If I teach somebody else's snot-nosed brats how to read I am a highly intelligent professional and disserve respect, but if I teach my own, I am obviously a little on the stupid side.

If I nurse other people's aging parents I am a wonderful Angel Of Mercy. If I nurse my own I am a slave.

The feminists and socialists have succeeded in making us believe that if something doesn't earn money, it doesn't have value. How incredibly sad. So much beauty in life has been lost because women are too busy earning filthy lucre to make the world around them a beautiful place.

Do I slave away for my family? No, I don't.

When a woman works outside the home, she has to be at work when her boss tells her to, eat lunch when he tells her to, and even go to the bathroom when he allows her to. She can only go home when he says she can and has to go to bed early enough to get up in time to be there in the morning when he says for her to be. Her whole life is controlled by her boss, and she is dependent on him to keep her at work and pay her salary.

I get up when I want, do my work when I want, how I want. I decide what that work will entail, too. You see, I have these nine clients (one husband and eight children) whose needs I must meet, but I am in control of how that is done. I am my own boss, the Queen Of My Castle, if you will. Yes, I depend on my husband's salary, but no more than I would depend on my boss's business sense or my customer's money if I had my own business.

Now look back over these last two paragraphs and tell me, who is the slave? Who is liberated?

G.K. Chesterton compared a mother's duties to those of a monarch, a merchant, and a theology teacher. He said, “I can understand how this might exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it could narrow it. How can it be a large career to tell other people's children about (arithmetic), and a small career to tell one's own children about the universe? How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone, and narrow to be everything to someone? No; a woman's function is laborious because it is gigantic, not because it is minute. I will pity Mrs. Jones for the hugeness of her task; I will never pity her for its smallness.”

I know that some women really do HAVE to work. The unmarried is the most common group in this category. They have to eat after all. I do think our society is a little too fast in kicking our children out of the nest and a little too slow in taking single relatives in. Single adults can be a blessing to the family by staying home and ministering to them. Young women can help mom with her work and relieve her burden. Young men can help with the finances. They need not always leave until they marry.

From Strong's concordance;

oikouros {oy-koo-ros'} adj
From 3624 and ouros (a guard, be "ware")
Caring for the house, working at home
The (watch or) keeper of the house
Keeping at home and taking care of household affairs
A domestic

Older women... teach the younger women to love their husbands, love their children, ...and be keepers at home.

That last term means to guard the home. Women are to love, guard, and nurture.

“For Adam was first formed, then Eve.” 1 Timothy 2:13.

Man being head of the house is something that has been from the beginning of time.

The feminists would have us believe that marriage can be "equal" with no one as a boss. This is impossible. Human nature is such that someone has to be boss. Someone has to make the final decisions My observation is that if no one is boss than the woman is boss. I won't say this is true all the time because I have not met every married couple on the planet. But I have personally never seen any exception. The Bible is clear. The man is to be the head of the household and the woman is to be his help meet.

A man can not force his wife to submit anymore than a woman can force her husband to love her. Both are a choice. I will not answer to God for my husband's level of love for me. It is really none of my business. Nor will he answer to God for my level of submission. It is none of his business. We each must answer to God for how we fulfill the commands He gives each one of us.

In summary, God made men and women to be two distinct different beings. He gave each a special, unique calling and the physical gifts necessary for those callings. To say that women can and should do everything men can do is to make the men irrelevant. To say that no one should do women's work (as the feminists say) is to degrade women and insult our Creator. Both distinct roles are very necessary to the survival of our society.