I was praying once about my blogging and time on facebook (yes, I feel guilty sometimes for the absurd amount of time I spend on the computer).
God gave me a vision:
I was walking and was attacked by a bunch of people intent on harm. I simply shrugged my shoulders and went on. I wasn't important enough to bother fighting for. Whatever happens, happens.
Then I was sitting in a group of small children. The same evil people came to attack them. I stood up, pulled my broadsword out of its scabbard (? Where did that come from?) and took a battle stance. Those babies ARE worth fighting for.
My posts are often very controversial. I know that. I know I have hurt feelings, even of people I care deeply for. I have lost friends, and I mean real-life friends, not e-friends.
But as much as I hate to hurt someones feelings and not have them like me any more, I am not important. What IS important is that parents are spurred on to do the research to give their children the best possible. I'm not really too concerned with offending competent, mature adults. They are big girls and boys and can take care of themselves.
But I would like to spur everyone to rethink all the things you have always "known" was true, rethink the way you do things. You do the research and find the information. Hey, if you find out I 'm wrong, tell me! I want to only post the truth. I'll retract anything you prove to be wrong.
Here are the subjects I am especially concerned about:
Creation
Daycare
Public School
Childbirth
Family Integrated Church/Sunday School
Biblical roles
and to a lesser extent,
nutrition
vaccinations
Monday, January 31, 2011
Orgasmic Birth
Hubby rented this for me. I really enjoyed it! It really tells the truth of birth and explains the difference between a medical birth and a real birth.
(Sigh. I do feel obligated to warn you that when women are left to birth the way way they want to instead of obeying rules and regulatins, they often find clothes annoying. Sooooo, there is a good deal of nudity, though none of it is sexual unless you have a festish for women in labor.)
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Ouch Ouch Ouch
Hubby bought a new Blue-ray player.
He jsut made me get rid of all my VHS! Ouch Ouch Ouch.
The consolation is that most of the most important videos are available on Netflix. This means we still have them available, but I don't have to find a storage place for them! Yeah!
I love Netflix. The only thing I don't like is that their content changes so you can't always get everything. But over all, we have so much more available but don't have to pay for each individual video or find storage space.
So overall, this is good, though it hurts.
He jsut made me get rid of all my VHS! Ouch Ouch Ouch.
The consolation is that most of the most important videos are available on Netflix. This means we still have them available, but I don't have to find a storage place for them! Yeah!
I love Netflix. The only thing I don't like is that their content changes so you can't always get everything. But over all, we have so much more available but don't have to pay for each individual video or find storage space.
So overall, this is good, though it hurts.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Future pamphlete? Book chapter? Hmmmm
The Family Unit
The Church and the Country are Only as Strong as the Families that Make Them Up.
Marriage and the family were both God’s idea. They were the first institutions that He invented.
Marriage
God made two humans in the beginning; one male and one female. This is His design for marriage.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and thy shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
Any other format than one man and one woman for marriage, is not approved by God; including polygamy, homosexuality, serial divorce, and “open marriages”.
The Purpose of Marriage
Marriage has two purposes. The first is to demonstrate God’s relationship with the church.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it;” Ephesians 5:25
Polygamy would demonstrate God having two or more brides, which He doesn’t. There is only one church.
“So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.” Romans 12:5
“A bishop (what we call a Pastor today) then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;” Timothy 3:2
The leaders of the church are to set the example of monogamy. There are no examples in the Bible of healthy families from polygamous marriages.
Homosexuality demonstrates that God doesn’t need the church but should find another God to be His companion; or that the church doesn’t need God, but should just find another church to fellowship with.
Romans 1:26-28 “For this cause (the denial of God) God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: (lesbianism) and likewise also the men leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men (homosexuality) working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; (Men are not designed to have sex with men)”
The second purpose of marriage is to produce godly children.
Malachi 2:15 “And did not He make one? Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That He might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.”
The results of a marriage that does these two things are that the needs of both parties are filled; they have companionship, an efficient division of labor, and a life of enjoyment. These are not the purposes of marriage, but the rewards.
Divorce
God hates divorce.
Malachi 2:16 “For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away (divorce); …”
When I enter into marriage, it is for life no matter what. God only gives two reasons for divorce:
• Adultery:
“But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” Matthew 5:32
If my spouse cheats on me I have the option to divorce him/her and remarry. I don’t have to, but it is an option that is left up to me.
When Israel cheated on God (entered into idolatry), He chose to forgive her many times, but ultimately divorced her.
“And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce;…” Jeremiah 3:8
• Abandonment:
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” 1 Corinthians 7:15
If my unsaved spouse chooses to stay with me, I must cheerfully and lovingly stay with them, doing my best to obey God’s commands to me as a husband or wife, even if they aren’t following His Word.
“For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?” 1 Corinthians 7:16
But if they wish to divorce me because of my faith, I am free to remarry another Christian.
• The Bible doesn’t give the option of divorcing an abusive spouse. However, it does give permission to flee persecution (separate) and commands us to obey the laws of the land. It is permissible (and possibly even commanded) for me to have my abusive spouse arrested for their abuse and testify against them in court since it is against the laws of this land for a husband to beat up his wife or for a wife to beat her husband. If I follow this course, I should earnestly pray for my spouse to come to repentance and continue to be the best mate I can be. If they choose to file for divorce I am free to remarry a Christian according to the abandonment allowance.
Once I am divorced, I must seek God’s will on whether to seek a new spouse or not. It may be God’s will for me to remarry or to stay single and focus all my attention and energy on serving Him. If I do remarry and for some reason that marriage ends before my death, I am not allowed to remarry my first spouse.
“And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.” Deuteronomy 24:3,4
This would not apply if our divorce occurred before we were saved, though, as;
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17
How Should A Married Couple Treat Each Other
A married couple should treat each other like:
• Christians- “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” Ephesians 5:21
• Neighbors- “…Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” Matthew 22:39
• Enemies- “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Matthew 5:14 (Love, bless, do good to, and pray for your spouse.)
Husbands
The Bible clearly states that the husband is the head of the household. As the husband, I am to protect, provide for, and lead my family. I will have to answer before the throne of God for how I have fulfilled this role. I will bear responsibility for all decisions made.
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” Ephesians 5:23
Jesus not only died a torturous death for His bride (the church- something He very much did not want to do), He gave up His desires for her.
Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.” Matthew 4:1
If Jesus did not want the power, riches, thrills, etc. that Satan offered Him, this would not have been temptation.
“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.” Hebrews 4:15
He very much wanted them and didn’t even need the devil’s help to get them. But He loved the church so much He denied Himself these things to do what was best for her. He lived a life of ministry to His bride, providing the teachings and instructions she would need to live a righteous life and did what was necessary to provide her with eternal life.
This is the attitude I, as a husband, should have to my wife.
Ephesians 5:25-28 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it. That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself.”
Spots are sin. Just as Christ provides instruction and strength to keep the church from sin, so I, as the husband, have the responsibility to do my best to provide my wife with the teaching and support necessary to live a righteous life. I cannot make her accept Christ, but I can make it easier for her to do so and help her in her walk with God.
Wrinkles in clothes appear from disuse. I need to make sure my wife has what she needs to develop and use her talents. God gave her those talents to help me (even if I can’t see how they might help at the moment) and it is really in my best interest to see that they are developed to the highest extent possible just like God makes sure the church has all she needs to develop her gifts.
I am to love my wife as my own body.
“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” Ephesians 5:28
I am to give extra honor to her because she is physically weaker.
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
My job, then, as a husband, is to care for my wife mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My wife cannot force me to do these things. They are commands between me and my God. They must come from my heart.
The Lord tells me in 1 Timothy 5:8 that if I don’t provide for my own, especially those in my own household, I am a worse sinner than an atheist and have denied God.
It is my responsibility to make sure my family has food to eat, a roof over their head, the love they need to be mentally sound, and that they have the spiritual training they need to follow God. This does not mean I must provide an upper-middle class standard of living, or even a middle class standard. But it does mean all their basic needs must be met. If I follow God’s guiding, He will put me in the job that will best meet my family’s needs while providing opportunities for me to minister for Him. This may be a place in full time church ministry, but is more likely to be witnessing on the job to my co-workers. God needs ministers at all income levels and all walks of life.
Wife
The Bible clearly states that I, as the wife, am to submit to my husband.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” Colossians 3:18
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands;…” 1 Peter 3:1
This does not mean I am less intelligent or less capable than my husband. Nor does it mean that it is ok for my husband to walk all over me or abuse me.
It does mean that just like a manager in a business to the owner, a major in the army to the general, or the church to God, I am to help my husband to achieve those goals God gives him. The more intelligent and capable I am, the better I can help him. A wise leader (husband, general, business owner) asks for the opinions of his assistants and discusses their views before making decisions. He may not always agree or go along with his advisors, but he will seek their advice and seriously consider it. He also delegates and does not micro-manage.
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12
I must obey my husband cheerfully and willingly, while giving him wise counsel and doing all I can to help him achieve the goals God has given him. If he is called to be a truck driver, I must become the best truck-driver’s-wife I can possibly be. If he is called to be a missionary, so am I. If he is called to be the church janitor, so am I. By working with my husband to achieve his assigned goals instead of pursuing my own agenda, we form a team that is unbeatable and will accomplish a great deal for God.
“And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12
My husband cannot force me to submit to him any more than I can force him to love me sacrificially. This must come from my heart and is between my God and me.
Titus 2 says for “Older women to … teach the younger women to… be keepers at home…”
The words “keepers at home” mean “workers at home” in the original Greek. As a married woman, it is my job to make sure my family has a healthy, restful home to launch their lives from and to make sure they have nourishing foods to refuel with. It is also most likely that the job of actually teaching and training the children will fall on my shoulders as it is easier to teach while “keeping at home” than while “providing for (our) own.” I must do this with my whole heart as unto the Lord.
“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.” Colossians 3:17
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” Colossians 3:23
I know these words in Titus still apply to me because the rest of the scripture still applies:
“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:4-5
I must follow this scripture to keep the Bible from being “evil spoken of” (Definition of blasphemed)
I must also do it as if I was caring for the Christ child Himself.
“And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.” Matthew 24:40
When my children are old enough to help around the house, God may open a door for me to have a ministry besides keeping the home and training the children. This ministry may or may not bring money into the family. I will know this ministry is from God if it does not interfere with my husband’s God-given goals, he approves, it doesn’t harm my children, and doesn’t cause my home to descend into shambles. In other words, any ministry God truly sends me (instead of the devil or my own heart) will not take priority over or interfere with those goals clearly set for me in the Bible.
Part of this helping my husband is to live within the amount of money God has given us through his salary. It is an important part of my job to learn to live frugally. It can even be fun if I set my mind to it. I cannot insist on a high standard of living and then excuse my leaving the home to work in order to support that standard. I must be content with the standard provided by God through my husband.
Goals for a Marriage
God gives two major goals for a marriage. The first is discussed above; to demonstrate God’s love and provision for the church to the world and the church’s love and submission to God.
The second goal given to every couple that God blesses with children is to raise up spiritual warriors trained to worship at the feet of the King.
“When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.” 2 Timothy 1:5
These two women have gone down in history because the taught one child to love God.
The Bible clearly states that my children are a blessing form God.
“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” Psalms 127:3
They are not accidents or biological occurrences, but special gifts molded by God just for me.
It also says I am to…
“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:” Philippians 2:5
Jesus said
“… ‘Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.’” Matthew 19:14
This is the attitude I am to have towards my children. They are not interruptions in my life, but the most important ministry I will ever be assigned.
“As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.” Psalms 127:4
If I allow God to give me the children He wants to and He chooses the historical average of seven children, and I am faithful to train them to follow God, and each of them allow God to give them the average of seven children, and this continues to my grandchildren, I will have 399 descendents (not counting in-laws) accredited to me. This is a mighty army indeed!
Training the Army
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
The Word of God is our only weapon of attack:
“And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:” Ephesians 6:17
“For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrew 4:12
“For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;” 2 Corinthians 10:4
I have the responsibility to train my children in the expert use of their Weapon. God tells me how to do that.
“And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Deuteronomy 6:7
“Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you” 2 Corinthians 6:17
“Only take heed to yourself, and diligently keep yourself, lest you forget the things your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. And teach them to your children and your grandchildren,” Deuteronomy 4:9
“You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” Deuteronomy 11:19
“And you shall tell your son in that day, saying, ‘This is done because of what the LORD did for me.” Exodus 8: 8
“Thus says the LORD: “Do not learn the way of the Gentiles;…” Jeremiah 10:2
“But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates DAY AND NIGHT.” Psalm 1: 2
This includes school hours
“Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing EVERY THOUGHT into captivity to the obedience of Christ,” 2 Corinthians 10:5
Even math, spelling, history and science thoughts.
“And, ye fathers, provoke (frustrate) not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture (culture) and admonition (education) of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4
I must create in my home a thoroughly Christian culture and saturate my children with the Word of God. I must provide a Christian education. Even if I could find a truly neutral education, it is not good enough. Like young plants I must protect them from the elements of the world until they are old enough to handle them maturely and then only introduce them gradually so they have a chance to build their spiritual muscles.
“That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace:” Psalms 144:12
This does mean I must provide an explicitly Christian education either in private Christian school, or, preferably, homeschool as it more completely fulfills the scripture. This will take sacrifices for our family to achieve but:
“Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.” Luke 17:33
God will reward my obedience.
Disciplining the Ranks
Part of training my children is teaching them to obey.
“Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” Colossians 3:20
The attitude my children obey me with is the attitude they will obey God with in their adult life. I want them to follow God cheerfully, promptly and unquestioningly. So I must demand the same type of obedience to me. To not require them to obey me is to allow them to sin.
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.” Ephesians 6:1
I must watch carefully and correct any hint of rebellion (eye rolling, sighing, foot stomping, etc.) before it reaches my child’s actions. If the heart is right, the actions will be as right as my child’s maturity allows. This will prevent the forming of the habit of rebellion.
One important tool that God has given me to use in this training is spanking. When the Bible speaks of a “rod” it is talking about a stick used to discipline sheep. A comparative tool for a child would be a switch of a tree (no more than ¼ inch wide), or a wooden spoon. “Beat” means a simple spanking that does no permanent, or even long term damage. Marks should never last more than a few hours.
“The fool hath said in his heart, ‘There is no God.’ They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good” Psalms 14:1
“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15
My child’s natural tendency towards sin and rebellion is the result of his denial of authority, his belief that he won’t get caught or punished for his actions or attitude (“There is no God.”) If I am diligent to calmly spank my child for every sign of rebellion, he will come to the conclusion that there is authority that must be obeyed; there is a God.
“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Proverbs 13:24
Since I don’t hate my child, but love him dearly, I will be diligent to discipline him correctly with self-control as soon as the offence is committed.
“Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.” Proverbs 23:13,14
If I do not spank my child (in a controlled, none angry manner), he will die the ultimate death; he will be separated from God forever. But if I am diligent to train him to obey, I place him squarely on the course to heaven. I cannot make the decision to serve God for him, but I can make that decision much easier and more natural for him to make for himself.
“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” Proverbs 29:15
A child carefully trained does not bring shame but pride to his parents. This training must be consistent. Every sign of rebellion or any other wrong attitude must be dealt with immediately and completely. I should have a gentle, cheerful attitude while training my child, but be swift to apply the “Board of Education” to the “Seat of Knowledge” whenever necessary. When I do this without fail, every time, my child learns that it is not worth it to be naughty. He will choose to be happy and obedient. The result for my family is that once the initial training is over with, there will seldom be a need for further discipline and we can spend the vast majority of our time together in happiness and peace.
“Then will I visit their transgression with the rod, and their iniquity with stripes.” Psalms 89:32
God is our example of a good parent. He carefully disciplines those who are His children. He does it not to vent His anger, but in such a way as to bring about the maximum righteousness in my life.
“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” Hebrews 12:8
In the same way that God’s punishments and training shows that I am loved, my discipline of my child shows that I care enough about him to bother teaching him right from wrong.
The Call of Singleness and Childlessness
God has different callings for each life. Though He calls most people to marry and have children, He does call some to singleness and to barrenness.
• Singleness allows me to focus all my attention on serving God.
“But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:33
Singleness allows me to be a sold out servant of God without the cares of a family.
This life may be difficult to accept, but will bring immense rewards if I do so cheerfully and willingly.
• The lack of children born into my home does not mean God is punishing me anymore than He was punishing Sarah with barrenness. It may mean He has other ministries for me to do that require more of my time and energy than children would allow. My barrenness may be for a season or for life, but God will comfort my empty arms if I allow Him to.
Sometimes barrenness is simply a result of living in a fallen world. I need to earnestly pray and see if God wants me to seek a medical solution or if He has a different plan for my life. He may wish me to adopt little ones already here in need of a solid Christian home. Or He may want me to devote my life to an area of ministry that would leave me no time for children, as He did Paul. I must pray for guidance and His will in my life.
The Church and the Country are Only as Strong as the Families that Make Them Up.
Marriage and the family were both God’s idea. They were the first institutions that He invented.
Marriage
God made two humans in the beginning; one male and one female. This is His design for marriage.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and thy shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24
Any other format than one man and one woman for marriage, is not approved by God; including polygamy, homosexuality, serial divorce, and “open marriages”.
The Purpose of Marriage
Marriage has two purposes. The first is to demonstrate God’s relationship with the church.
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it;” Ephesians 5:25
Polygamy would demonstrate God having two or more brides, which He doesn’t. There is only one church.
“So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another.” Romans 12:5
“A bishop (what we call a Pastor today) then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;” Timothy 3:2
The leaders of the church are to set the example of monogamy. There are no examples in the Bible of healthy families from polygamous marriages.
Homosexuality demonstrates that God doesn’t need the church but should find another God to be His companion; or that the church doesn’t need God, but should just find another church to fellowship with.
Romans 1:26-28 “For this cause (the denial of God) God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: (lesbianism) and likewise also the men leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men (homosexuality) working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; (Men are not designed to have sex with men)”
The second purpose of marriage is to produce godly children.
Malachi 2:15 “And did not He make one? Yet had He the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That He might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.”
The results of a marriage that does these two things are that the needs of both parties are filled; they have companionship, an efficient division of labor, and a life of enjoyment. These are not the purposes of marriage, but the rewards.
Divorce
God hates divorce.
Malachi 2:16 “For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that He hateth putting away (divorce); …”
When I enter into marriage, it is for life no matter what. God only gives two reasons for divorce:
• Adultery:
“But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” Matthew 5:32
If my spouse cheats on me I have the option to divorce him/her and remarry. I don’t have to, but it is an option that is left up to me.
When Israel cheated on God (entered into idolatry), He chose to forgive her many times, but ultimately divorced her.
“And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce;…” Jeremiah 3:8
• Abandonment:
“But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” 1 Corinthians 7:15
If my unsaved spouse chooses to stay with me, I must cheerfully and lovingly stay with them, doing my best to obey God’s commands to me as a husband or wife, even if they aren’t following His Word.
“For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?” 1 Corinthians 7:16
But if they wish to divorce me because of my faith, I am free to remarry another Christian.
• The Bible doesn’t give the option of divorcing an abusive spouse. However, it does give permission to flee persecution (separate) and commands us to obey the laws of the land. It is permissible (and possibly even commanded) for me to have my abusive spouse arrested for their abuse and testify against them in court since it is against the laws of this land for a husband to beat up his wife or for a wife to beat her husband. If I follow this course, I should earnestly pray for my spouse to come to repentance and continue to be the best mate I can be. If they choose to file for divorce I am free to remarry a Christian according to the abandonment allowance.
Once I am divorced, I must seek God’s will on whether to seek a new spouse or not. It may be God’s will for me to remarry or to stay single and focus all my attention and energy on serving Him. If I do remarry and for some reason that marriage ends before my death, I am not allowed to remarry my first spouse.
“And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife; Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.” Deuteronomy 24:3,4
This would not apply if our divorce occurred before we were saved, though, as;
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.” 2 Corinthians 5:17
How Should A Married Couple Treat Each Other
A married couple should treat each other like:
• Christians- “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” Ephesians 5:21
• Neighbors- “…Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” Matthew 22:39
• Enemies- “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;” Matthew 5:14 (Love, bless, do good to, and pray for your spouse.)
Husbands
The Bible clearly states that the husband is the head of the household. As the husband, I am to protect, provide for, and lead my family. I will have to answer before the throne of God for how I have fulfilled this role. I will bear responsibility for all decisions made.
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” 1 Corinthians 11:3
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” Ephesians 5:23
Jesus not only died a torturous death for His bride (the church- something He very much did not want to do), He gave up His desires for her.
Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.” Matthew 4:1
If Jesus did not want the power, riches, thrills, etc. that Satan offered Him, this would not have been temptation.
“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.” Hebrews 4:15
He very much wanted them and didn’t even need the devil’s help to get them. But He loved the church so much He denied Himself these things to do what was best for her. He lived a life of ministry to His bride, providing the teachings and instructions she would need to live a righteous life and did what was necessary to provide her with eternal life.
This is the attitude I, as a husband, should have to my wife.
Ephesians 5:25-28 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it. That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, that He might present it to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife, loveth himself.”
Spots are sin. Just as Christ provides instruction and strength to keep the church from sin, so I, as the husband, have the responsibility to do my best to provide my wife with the teaching and support necessary to live a righteous life. I cannot make her accept Christ, but I can make it easier for her to do so and help her in her walk with God.
Wrinkles in clothes appear from disuse. I need to make sure my wife has what she needs to develop and use her talents. God gave her those talents to help me (even if I can’t see how they might help at the moment) and it is really in my best interest to see that they are developed to the highest extent possible just like God makes sure the church has all she needs to develop her gifts.
I am to love my wife as my own body.
“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” Ephesians 5:28
I am to give extra honor to her because she is physically weaker.
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
My job, then, as a husband, is to care for my wife mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My wife cannot force me to do these things. They are commands between me and my God. They must come from my heart.
The Lord tells me in 1 Timothy 5:8 that if I don’t provide for my own, especially those in my own household, I am a worse sinner than an atheist and have denied God.
It is my responsibility to make sure my family has food to eat, a roof over their head, the love they need to be mentally sound, and that they have the spiritual training they need to follow God. This does not mean I must provide an upper-middle class standard of living, or even a middle class standard. But it does mean all their basic needs must be met. If I follow God’s guiding, He will put me in the job that will best meet my family’s needs while providing opportunities for me to minister for Him. This may be a place in full time church ministry, but is more likely to be witnessing on the job to my co-workers. God needs ministers at all income levels and all walks of life.
Wife
The Bible clearly states that I, as the wife, am to submit to my husband.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” Colossians 3:18
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands;…” 1 Peter 3:1
This does not mean I am less intelligent or less capable than my husband. Nor does it mean that it is ok for my husband to walk all over me or abuse me.
It does mean that just like a manager in a business to the owner, a major in the army to the general, or the church to God, I am to help my husband to achieve those goals God gives him. The more intelligent and capable I am, the better I can help him. A wise leader (husband, general, business owner) asks for the opinions of his assistants and discusses their views before making decisions. He may not always agree or go along with his advisors, but he will seek their advice and seriously consider it. He also delegates and does not micro-manage.
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12
I must obey my husband cheerfully and willingly, while giving him wise counsel and doing all I can to help him achieve the goals God has given him. If he is called to be a truck driver, I must become the best truck-driver’s-wife I can possibly be. If he is called to be a missionary, so am I. If he is called to be the church janitor, so am I. By working with my husband to achieve his assigned goals instead of pursuing my own agenda, we form a team that is unbeatable and will accomplish a great deal for God.
“And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12
My husband cannot force me to submit to him any more than I can force him to love me sacrificially. This must come from my heart and is between my God and me.
Titus 2 says for “Older women to … teach the younger women to… be keepers at home…”
The words “keepers at home” mean “workers at home” in the original Greek. As a married woman, it is my job to make sure my family has a healthy, restful home to launch their lives from and to make sure they have nourishing foods to refuel with. It is also most likely that the job of actually teaching and training the children will fall on my shoulders as it is easier to teach while “keeping at home” than while “providing for (our) own.” I must do this with my whole heart as unto the Lord.
“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.” Colossians 3:17
“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;” Colossians 3:23
I know these words in Titus still apply to me because the rest of the scripture still applies:
“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:4-5
I must follow this scripture to keep the Bible from being “evil spoken of” (Definition of blasphemed)
I must also do it as if I was caring for the Christ child Himself.
“And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.” Matthew 24:40
When my children are old enough to help around the house, God may open a door for me to have a ministry besides keeping the home and training the children. This ministry may or may not bring money into the family. I will know this ministry is from God if it does not interfere with my husband’s God-given goals, he approves, it doesn’t harm my children, and doesn’t cause my home to descend into shambles. In other words, any ministry God truly sends me (instead of the devil or my own heart) will not take priority over or interfere with those goals clearly set for me in the Bible.
Part of this helping my husband is to live within the amount of money God has given us through his salary. It is an important part of my job to learn to live frugally. It can even be fun if I set my mind to it. I cannot insist on a high standard of living and then excuse my leaving the home to work in order to support that standard. I must be content with the standard provided by God through my husband.
Goals for a Marriage
God gives two major goals for a marriage. The first is discussed above; to demonstrate God’s love and provision for the church to the world and the church’s love and submission to God.
The second goal given to every couple that God blesses with children is to raise up spiritual warriors trained to worship at the feet of the King.
“When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also.” 2 Timothy 1:5
These two women have gone down in history because the taught one child to love God.
The Bible clearly states that my children are a blessing form God.
“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” Psalms 127:3
They are not accidents or biological occurrences, but special gifts molded by God just for me.
It also says I am to…
“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:” Philippians 2:5
Jesus said
“… ‘Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.’” Matthew 19:14
This is the attitude I am to have towards my children. They are not interruptions in my life, but the most important ministry I will ever be assigned.
“As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.” Psalms 127:4
If I allow God to give me the children He wants to and He chooses the historical average of seven children, and I am faithful to train them to follow God, and each of them allow God to give them the average of seven children, and this continues to my grandchildren, I will have 399 descendents (not counting in-laws) accredited to me. This is a mighty army indeed!
Training the Army
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
The Word of God is our only weapon of attack:
“And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:” Ephesians 6:17
“For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.” Hebrew 4:12
“For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;” 2 Corinthians 10:4
I have the responsibility to train my children in the expert use of their Weapon. God tells me how to do that.
“And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.” Deuteronomy 6:7
“Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you” 2 Corinthians 6:17
“Only take heed to yourself, and diligently keep yourself, lest you forget the things your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. And teach them to your children and your grandchildren,” Deuteronomy 4:9
“You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” Deuteronomy 11:19
“And you shall tell your son in that day, saying, ‘This is done because of what the LORD did for me.” Exodus 8: 8
“Thus says the LORD: “Do not learn the way of the Gentiles;…” Jeremiah 10:2
“But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates DAY AND NIGHT.” Psalm 1: 2
This includes school hours
“Casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing EVERY THOUGHT into captivity to the obedience of Christ,” 2 Corinthians 10:5
Even math, spelling, history and science thoughts.
“And, ye fathers, provoke (frustrate) not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture (culture) and admonition (education) of the Lord” Ephesians 6:4
I must create in my home a thoroughly Christian culture and saturate my children with the Word of God. I must provide a Christian education. Even if I could find a truly neutral education, it is not good enough. Like young plants I must protect them from the elements of the world until they are old enough to handle them maturely and then only introduce them gradually so they have a chance to build their spiritual muscles.
“That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth; that our daughters may be as corner stones, polished after the similitude of a palace:” Psalms 144:12
This does mean I must provide an explicitly Christian education either in private Christian school, or, preferably, homeschool as it more completely fulfills the scripture. This will take sacrifices for our family to achieve but:
“Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it.” Luke 17:33
God will reward my obedience.
Disciplining the Ranks
Part of training my children is teaching them to obey.
“Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” Colossians 3:20
The attitude my children obey me with is the attitude they will obey God with in their adult life. I want them to follow God cheerfully, promptly and unquestioningly. So I must demand the same type of obedience to me. To not require them to obey me is to allow them to sin.
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.” Ephesians 6:1
I must watch carefully and correct any hint of rebellion (eye rolling, sighing, foot stomping, etc.) before it reaches my child’s actions. If the heart is right, the actions will be as right as my child’s maturity allows. This will prevent the forming of the habit of rebellion.
One important tool that God has given me to use in this training is spanking. When the Bible speaks of a “rod” it is talking about a stick used to discipline sheep. A comparative tool for a child would be a switch of a tree (no more than ¼ inch wide), or a wooden spoon. “Beat” means a simple spanking that does no permanent, or even long term damage. Marks should never last more than a few hours.
“The fool hath said in his heart, ‘There is no God.’ They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good” Psalms 14:1
“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15
My child’s natural tendency towards sin and rebellion is the result of his denial of authority, his belief that he won’t get caught or punished for his actions or attitude (“There is no God.”) If I am diligent to calmly spank my child for every sign of rebellion, he will come to the conclusion that there is authority that must be obeyed; there is a God.
“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Proverbs 13:24
Since I don’t hate my child, but love him dearly, I will be diligent to discipline him correctly with self-control as soon as the offence is committed.
“Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.” Proverbs 23:13,14
If I do not spank my child (in a controlled, none angry manner), he will die the ultimate death; he will be separated from God forever. But if I am diligent to train him to obey, I place him squarely on the course to heaven. I cannot make the decision to serve God for him, but I can make that decision much easier and more natural for him to make for himself.
“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” Proverbs 29:15
A child carefully trained does not bring shame but pride to his parents. This training must be consistent. Every sign of rebellion or any other wrong attitude must be dealt with immediately and completely. I should have a gentle, cheerful attitude while training my child, but be swift to apply the “Board of Education” to the “Seat of Knowledge” whenever necessary. When I do this without fail, every time, my child learns that it is not worth it to be naughty. He will choose to be happy and obedient. The result for my family is that once the initial training is over with, there will seldom be a need for further discipline and we can spend the vast majority of our time together in happiness and peace.
“Then will I visit their transgression with the rod, and their iniquity with stripes.” Psalms 89:32
God is our example of a good parent. He carefully disciplines those who are His children. He does it not to vent His anger, but in such a way as to bring about the maximum righteousness in my life.
“But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.” Hebrews 12:8
In the same way that God’s punishments and training shows that I am loved, my discipline of my child shows that I care enough about him to bother teaching him right from wrong.
The Call of Singleness and Childlessness
God has different callings for each life. Though He calls most people to marry and have children, He does call some to singleness and to barrenness.
• Singleness allows me to focus all my attention on serving God.
“But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:33
Singleness allows me to be a sold out servant of God without the cares of a family.
This life may be difficult to accept, but will bring immense rewards if I do so cheerfully and willingly.
• The lack of children born into my home does not mean God is punishing me anymore than He was punishing Sarah with barrenness. It may mean He has other ministries for me to do that require more of my time and energy than children would allow. My barrenness may be for a season or for life, but God will comfort my empty arms if I allow Him to.
Sometimes barrenness is simply a result of living in a fallen world. I need to earnestly pray and see if God wants me to seek a medical solution or if He has a different plan for my life. He may wish me to adopt little ones already here in need of a solid Christian home. Or He may want me to devote my life to an area of ministry that would leave me no time for children, as He did Paul. I must pray for guidance and His will in my life.
Friday, January 21, 2011
Why You SHOULD Cater To Your Husband!
Why You SHOULD Cater To Your Husband Breathing Grace
Treat others as you wish to be treated.
Love your neighbor as yourself.
Love your enemy.
This is what it means to be a Help Meet. (The only thing the Obamas got right)
Treat others as you wish to be treated.
Love your neighbor as yourself.
Love your enemy.
This is what it means to be a Help Meet. (The only thing the Obamas got right)
Unfriend Facebook
Unfriend Facebook - BaylyBlog: Out of our minds, too...
I actually agree. Some of the points he makes are why I don't write much on here about my family and private life. I don't put much, if any, more on FB (most of my FB writing goes through here). I certaionly don't play the games 9I simply don't have that kind of time to waste).
But every time I have decided to quit doing this blog or FB God clearly and plainly tells me "NO." He wants me to continue to spread the information I learn in my daily research. So I will continue my preaching:) I don't know how much I help or if anyone actually reads anything I post (though I get 40-60 hits a week on this blog), but I will continue as I have been doing.
I care about you, my readers. If I didn't care, I wouldn't keep doing the research and preaching I do. I believe God has put certain laws in place in the universe that apply to anyone who follows them. If you obey His laws, you will have a blessed life. If you disobey, you will have a cursed life. It really is that simple. And I really want a blessed life for each and every one of you.
I actually agree. Some of the points he makes are why I don't write much on here about my family and private life. I don't put much, if any, more on FB (most of my FB writing goes through here). I certaionly don't play the games 9I simply don't have that kind of time to waste).
But every time I have decided to quit doing this blog or FB God clearly and plainly tells me "NO." He wants me to continue to spread the information I learn in my daily research. So I will continue my preaching:) I don't know how much I help or if anyone actually reads anything I post (though I get 40-60 hits a week on this blog), but I will continue as I have been doing.
I care about you, my readers. If I didn't care, I wouldn't keep doing the research and preaching I do. I believe God has put certain laws in place in the universe that apply to anyone who follows them. If you obey His laws, you will have a blessed life. If you disobey, you will have a cursed life. It really is that simple. And I really want a blessed life for each and every one of you.
Thursday, January 20, 2011
question
I have been just posting each link as I run across it instead of accumilating them all into one or two posts per day. Which is easier to read? Which do you prefer?
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
the Kamikaze Left
Did you know we have a ruling class in America? Many think it is the "rich" and that government and the media are supposed to protect us from them while education is supposed to overcome them.
The truth is that those in government and the media and education as well as the "rich" are the ruling class. They think they are smarter than us and better able to tell us how to live. In fact, the "rich" are the least offensive of these four. They actually just want to make a profit and if that means providing food and goods at resonable prices, than so be it!
The sooner we can understand that those in government (especially those who have been in for more than one term or more than one generation) and the media are not on our side, the better off we will be.
American Thinker: Tucson and the Kamikaze Left
I do see this country possibly heading for another civil war. I don't wan't that, of course, but I see it. We seem to be pretty evenly divided between those with faith in God and His laws of equality and justice and those with faith in human acheivment and goodness. Our clashes seem to be getting more and more severe. I pray that God will direct us to do what is necessary in the balot box and, more importantly, in our everyday witness of Jesus to keep this conflict from becoming violent.
The truth is that those in government and the media and education as well as the "rich" are the ruling class. They think they are smarter than us and better able to tell us how to live. In fact, the "rich" are the least offensive of these four. They actually just want to make a profit and if that means providing food and goods at resonable prices, than so be it!
The sooner we can understand that those in government (especially those who have been in for more than one term or more than one generation) and the media are not on our side, the better off we will be.
American Thinker: Tucson and the Kamikaze Left
I do see this country possibly heading for another civil war. I don't wan't that, of course, but I see it. We seem to be pretty evenly divided between those with faith in God and His laws of equality and justice and those with faith in human acheivment and goodness. Our clashes seem to be getting more and more severe. I pray that God will direct us to do what is necessary in the balot box and, more importantly, in our everyday witness of Jesus to keep this conflict from becoming violent.
Delaying Early Sex Leads to Better Relationships
Gee, you think God knew what He was doing when He told us to wait until marriage?
Dr. Laura’s Blog » Delaying Early Sex Leads to Better Relationships
Dr. Laura’s Blog » Delaying Early Sex Leads to Better Relationships
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
In answer to a pro-socialist Facebook post...
The other poster sarcasticly lists government programs he thinks everyone is in favor of (Social Security, Libraries, etc) and then goes on a tirad about how we are all rich and don't care about the people starving (presumably in America as the American government is the subject of the thread, though aside form the children of druggies I see a great deal more obesity than starvation, especially among the poor).
Your argument is the "either or" logic fallacy. EITHER the government takes massive amounts of money from the people who earn it OR the poor go hungry. It totally ignores the fact that when people get to keep larger portions of their paycheck they will take care of their own and their neighbors and do it better and more efficiently than the government ever dreamed of doing it.
Military and police are clearly appropriate roles for the government as outlined in the Constitution and the Bible. Retirement, libraries, health-care, bank bailouts, preserving the one-footed-bugger-picker, and education are NOT. These are areas that belong to the people.
"Absolute power corrupts absolutely" -Thomas Jefferson
"He wasn't talking about horse-power" -Uncle Eric
Our government is not immune from being tyrannical and dangerous. Any government run by human beings is in danger of oppressing its citizens. Ours has now grabbed enough power it could easily begin to compete with Stalin in becoming infamous in history, all for the "common good" of course.
"If you want total security, go to prison. There you're fed, clothed, given medical care and so on. The only thing lacking... is freedom." -Dwight D. Eisenhower
"Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security will deserve neither and lose both." -Benjamin Franklin
Your argument is the "either or" logic fallacy. EITHER the government takes massive amounts of money from the people who earn it OR the poor go hungry. It totally ignores the fact that when people get to keep larger portions of their paycheck they will take care of their own and their neighbors and do it better and more efficiently than the government ever dreamed of doing it.
Military and police are clearly appropriate roles for the government as outlined in the Constitution and the Bible. Retirement, libraries, health-care, bank bailouts, preserving the one-footed-bugger-picker, and education are NOT. These are areas that belong to the people.
"Absolute power corrupts absolutely" -Thomas Jefferson
"He wasn't talking about horse-power" -Uncle Eric
Our government is not immune from being tyrannical and dangerous. Any government run by human beings is in danger of oppressing its citizens. Ours has now grabbed enough power it could easily begin to compete with Stalin in becoming infamous in history, all for the "common good" of course.
"If you want total security, go to prison. There you're fed, clothed, given medical care and so on. The only thing lacking... is freedom." -Dwight D. Eisenhower
"Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security will deserve neither and lose both." -Benjamin Franklin
California county allows marijuana, but not raw milk
Let me get this straight, If I lived in Humboldt County, CA, I could grow MJ in my bathroom but would go to jail for selling the extra milk my cow produces?
This is actually a sore spot with me anyway. I have a big family, we drink a massive amount of milk, use lots of other dairy products, have chickens and a dog who love milk, have a calf who needs more than a gallon a day and our cow is a dairy cull (she wasn't producing enough to earn her keep). We STILL have several gallons more than we can use per week!
But here in NV it is illegal to sell raw milk for human consumption. So I can't earn money to buy hay by selling off my surplus...
unless I clearly lable it as dog food!
My neighbor's mutts can have all benifits of the raw milk but my neighbor can't.
Shouldnt we be allowed to do the research and make the decision for ourselves whether we want to take the chance (VERY LOW) with raw milk or drink the de-natured store bought stuff? What happend to our freedom? If we can't make this basic decesion for ourselves, we really don't have any freedom at all.
California county allows marijuana, but not raw milk
This is actually a sore spot with me anyway. I have a big family, we drink a massive amount of milk, use lots of other dairy products, have chickens and a dog who love milk, have a calf who needs more than a gallon a day and our cow is a dairy cull (she wasn't producing enough to earn her keep). We STILL have several gallons more than we can use per week!
But here in NV it is illegal to sell raw milk for human consumption. So I can't earn money to buy hay by selling off my surplus...
unless I clearly lable it as dog food!
My neighbor's mutts can have all benifits of the raw milk but my neighbor can't.
Shouldnt we be allowed to do the research and make the decision for ourselves whether we want to take the chance (VERY LOW) with raw milk or drink the de-natured store bought stuff? What happend to our freedom? If we can't make this basic decesion for ourselves, we really don't have any freedom at all.
California county allows marijuana, but not raw milk
Monday, January 17, 2011
Ignorance and Intelligence
I have noticed that those who choose to follow a different path than the norm, a different path than the "experts" say, are labeled "ignorant."
For example, I grew up in a church that thought Creationism was probably right, but evolution, gap theories, or day-age may all be right also and there was no way to really tell and it didn't really matter anyway. My public school and all the TV and movies assumed evolution was true and talked and acted like it. As an adult, I decided to research the issue and study out the facts. I came to the conclusion that both biblicly and scientifically Creationism had the stronger case, Gap Theory and Day-Age are bunk, and evolution is a religion as much as Christianity is. This is twenty-five years of research! Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for believing in a Creator God.
When I was pregnant with my oldest I intended to do all the right things; preschool at three, lots of extra curricular activities, attend all the parent/teacher conferences, ride herd on homework, etc. I was exposed to homeschooling when she was 3 months. I began to research, ask lots of questions ("What about socialization?") and by the time she was three years old had come to the conclusion that homeschooling was not only the best choice academically and socially but that it was more biblicaly accurate. I can take you to the scriptures and show you! Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for homeschooling.
I gave birth to my first four babies in the hospital with an OB. No nightmare stories, no injuries. Not even any stitches. I had analgesic and pitocin, but didn't even need an epidural (and we're talking babies ranging from 8.5 to 9.1 lbs). Somewhere about the time I was pregnant with my second I began to hear about midwives and homebirths. "Interesting, but I prefer the hospital (how would I know if I had never done the homebirth to compare it to?)" We moved shortly after the birth of my fourth. When number five was on the way, I had to find a new doctor and had no way of getting any information on which would be the least interventionist. Hubby read an article in the paper about one of the local midwives, so we did some extra research and then met with her. She "caught" (midwives don't claim to deliver babies. They say that's what mommy does) numbers 5, 6, and 7 (surprise breech!). A different local midwife caught number eight. I have spent hours studying the difference between birthing in hospitals and with doctors and birthing at home and with midwives. I am now so convinced in the superior safety of the home that I am studying to be a midwife myself. Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for birthing at home.
I always wanted a big family and hubby said we should take it one child at a time and not set any numbers. Yet when we hit THREE WHOLE CHILDREN I began to panic. Should we really have more? What about over population? What will people think? (hate to admit that one) Where in the world will we find a house with that many bedrooms? It was after researching the issues involved that we decided to not put limits on God. Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for having eight children.
I dutifully had my oldest children fully vaccinated. By the time #5 was here, I was having doubts. Oh, I wasn't really afraid of Autism. But it just didn't feel right. I began to research and study. #8 has had no vaccines and I now actively write against them. Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for not vaccinating.
Am I not defining "ignorant" right? Or is someone missing something somewhere?
For example, I grew up in a church that thought Creationism was probably right, but evolution, gap theories, or day-age may all be right also and there was no way to really tell and it didn't really matter anyway. My public school and all the TV and movies assumed evolution was true and talked and acted like it. As an adult, I decided to research the issue and study out the facts. I came to the conclusion that both biblicly and scientifically Creationism had the stronger case, Gap Theory and Day-Age are bunk, and evolution is a religion as much as Christianity is. This is twenty-five years of research! Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for believing in a Creator God.
When I was pregnant with my oldest I intended to do all the right things; preschool at three, lots of extra curricular activities, attend all the parent/teacher conferences, ride herd on homework, etc. I was exposed to homeschooling when she was 3 months. I began to research, ask lots of questions ("What about socialization?") and by the time she was three years old had come to the conclusion that homeschooling was not only the best choice academically and socially but that it was more biblicaly accurate. I can take you to the scriptures and show you! Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for homeschooling.
I gave birth to my first four babies in the hospital with an OB. No nightmare stories, no injuries. Not even any stitches. I had analgesic and pitocin, but didn't even need an epidural (and we're talking babies ranging from 8.5 to 9.1 lbs). Somewhere about the time I was pregnant with my second I began to hear about midwives and homebirths. "Interesting, but I prefer the hospital (how would I know if I had never done the homebirth to compare it to?)" We moved shortly after the birth of my fourth. When number five was on the way, I had to find a new doctor and had no way of getting any information on which would be the least interventionist. Hubby read an article in the paper about one of the local midwives, so we did some extra research and then met with her. She "caught" (midwives don't claim to deliver babies. They say that's what mommy does) numbers 5, 6, and 7 (surprise breech!). A different local midwife caught number eight. I have spent hours studying the difference between birthing in hospitals and with doctors and birthing at home and with midwives. I am now so convinced in the superior safety of the home that I am studying to be a midwife myself. Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for birthing at home.
I always wanted a big family and hubby said we should take it one child at a time and not set any numbers. Yet when we hit THREE WHOLE CHILDREN I began to panic. Should we really have more? What about over population? What will people think? (hate to admit that one) Where in the world will we find a house with that many bedrooms? It was after researching the issues involved that we decided to not put limits on God. Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for having eight children.
I dutifully had my oldest children fully vaccinated. By the time #5 was here, I was having doubts. Oh, I wasn't really afraid of Autism. But it just didn't feel right. I began to research and study. #8 has had no vaccines and I now actively write against them. Those who just buy what they are told in school and on TV have called me ignorant for not vaccinating.
Am I not defining "ignorant" right? Or is someone missing something somewhere?
Saturday, January 15, 2011
A Word About Pre-natal Testing
When you are pregnant, your doctor will tell you you need certain tests. I advise you to either research those tests and make up your mind ahead of time, or ask him this question:
"Why?"
His answer will be:
"Too make sure your baby is healthy."
To which you reply:
"How does taking this test make my baby healthy?"
You see, all those tests tell you IF your baby is healthy. They don't MAKE him healthy. The truth is that there is very little that can be done if your baby is ill so the tests are really for the purpose of giving you the information you need to decide if you will "continue the pregnancy."
You see, you get to decide if Baby stays a baby or if he magically becomes a ball of cells.
If you are pro-life, very little or nothing can be gained by most pre-natal tests.
I had all the tests but amnio during my first pregnancy. I had fewer for each successive one. I mean, even the blood tests for mamma seemed a waste of time and money when I have only ever had relations with one man in my life and he only with me, I don't use drugs, and generally live a very boring life medically speaking. What was to be gained? Now, when I showed signs of diabetes with my last one, I went ahead and was tested for that because the information helped me adjust my diet to keep Baby healthier (she was showing signs of distress which disappeared when I removed sugar from my diet). For her older sisters, I wasn't showing any signs of the disease, so we didn't bother. I also had the anemia test in each pregnancy to make sure I was on track with that (I look very anemic because I am very white, but actually usually score high on the iron tests). It is dangerous to baby for mommy to be too low and it is one thing that can be fixed during pregnancy. I have had far less fear and worry since I quit doing the tests even though I determined long before my first was conceived that nothing would make me abort.
In short, if you are pregnant, Google all the common pre-natal tests and see what they are for, what can be done to correct any problems that show up, and the reasons for doing them. When it comes right down to it, you are the one responsible for you and your baby's health.
"Why?"
His answer will be:
"Too make sure your baby is healthy."
To which you reply:
"How does taking this test make my baby healthy?"
You see, all those tests tell you IF your baby is healthy. They don't MAKE him healthy. The truth is that there is very little that can be done if your baby is ill so the tests are really for the purpose of giving you the information you need to decide if you will "continue the pregnancy."
You see, you get to decide if Baby stays a baby or if he magically becomes a ball of cells.
If you are pro-life, very little or nothing can be gained by most pre-natal tests.
I had all the tests but amnio during my first pregnancy. I had fewer for each successive one. I mean, even the blood tests for mamma seemed a waste of time and money when I have only ever had relations with one man in my life and he only with me, I don't use drugs, and generally live a very boring life medically speaking. What was to be gained? Now, when I showed signs of diabetes with my last one, I went ahead and was tested for that because the information helped me adjust my diet to keep Baby healthier (she was showing signs of distress which disappeared when I removed sugar from my diet). For her older sisters, I wasn't showing any signs of the disease, so we didn't bother. I also had the anemia test in each pregnancy to make sure I was on track with that (I look very anemic because I am very white, but actually usually score high on the iron tests). It is dangerous to baby for mommy to be too low and it is one thing that can be fixed during pregnancy. I have had far less fear and worry since I quit doing the tests even though I determined long before my first was conceived that nothing would make me abort.
In short, if you are pregnant, Google all the common pre-natal tests and see what they are for, what can be done to correct any problems that show up, and the reasons for doing them. When it comes right down to it, you are the one responsible for you and your baby's health.
Friday, January 14, 2011
To everyone who is calling for stricter gun laws in light of the tragedy in Tucson
... may I offer this little tidbit: If guns kill people, then pencils misspell words, cars drive drunk, and spoons make people fat! Remember: Hold the PERSON accountable for their actions, not just the means they chose to utilize!!! Reposted from another friend's status messagage on Facebook.
You know if we outlawed everything ever used to commit murder we would no longer have knives, cars, medicines, cliffs, baseball bats, ice picks, and a bare hands.
The first thing the Philistines did when they concurd Israel was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(swords)
The first thing Mao zTang did when he took over China was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(guns)
The first thing Stalin did when he took over Russia was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(guns)
The first thing Hitler did when he took over Germany was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(guns)
The first thing Castro did when he took over Cuba was take away the people's most powerful weapons. (guns)
Despite the retoric, the only reason a government wants to take away your weapons is so it can better control you.
Fear the government that fears you weapons.
(By the way, the next thing each of these murderers did was to force all children to attend school.)
You know if we outlawed everything ever used to commit murder we would no longer have knives, cars, medicines, cliffs, baseball bats, ice picks, and a bare hands.
The first thing the Philistines did when they concurd Israel was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(swords)
The first thing Mao zTang did when he took over China was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(guns)
The first thing Stalin did when he took over Russia was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(guns)
The first thing Hitler did when he took over Germany was take away the people's most powerful weapons.(guns)
The first thing Castro did when he took over Cuba was take away the people's most powerful weapons. (guns)
Despite the retoric, the only reason a government wants to take away your weapons is so it can better control you.
Fear the government that fears you weapons.
(By the way, the next thing each of these murderers did was to force all children to attend school.)
Thursday, January 13, 2011
A Patients Rights
In the United States, our government has declared that all patients (including pregnant ones) have certain rights.
You also have certain responsibilities.
Remember, be nice. Not a wimp, but polite.
- You have the right to all your medical records. This means copies of all doctor and nurse notes, test results, and any other documents related to you.
- You have the right to privacy of your records. A medical care provider may not share your information with anyone without your express consent except anyone who pays the bill (insurance companies, HMO, employer pay programs, medicaid, medicare, etc) has the right to look at what they are paying for (ALL your records).
- You have the right to choice of what treatment you will receive. This also means you have the right to refuse any treatment you don't wnat to receive. Did you know that this means you don't have to allow the doctor's office to weigh you? Now, if he is prescribing medicine he needs to know your weight so he can give you the right amount, but otherwise, it may not be relavent to your treatment and you can legally say "No thank you." This right changes if you have been ruled mentally ill which is why many people write down their wishes for the end of their lives before they get there.
- You have the right to informed consent. This means it is your right as an American Citizen (and as a human being) to be told the truth about all the risks and benifits of every procedure, test, and action taken regarding your health. If your doctor tells you the risks of Pitocin but only the good things of Cytotec, your rights have been violated. If you doctor tells you some babies die if allowed to go to 41 weeks gestation but doesn't tell you the risks of an induction, your rights have been violated. If your doctor tells you you have been in labor "too long" and you need a c-section but doesn't explain the acctual risk of waiting longer (and I don't mean yelling "YOUR BABY might DIE!") AND the risks of a c-section your rights have been violated. If you do not understand what is being explained to you you have the right to an interpreter or a better explination.
- You have the right to choose what intervention you will recieve at the end of your life. This includes feeding tubes and resucitations.
You also have certain responsibilities.
- We have a responsibility to the Giver of Life to take care of that life. We need to choose to live as healthfully as possible.Yes, this means exercise, get fresh air, drink lots of water, plenty of rest, lots of veggies, whole grains and watch the sugars, bad fats, and processed foods.
- We must be respectful. Not doormats. Not rag dolls. Not LaLaLand Ladies. Respectful. No yelling, cussing, hatefull tones of voices. No unrealistic expectations (doctors and nurses are human afterall). We can stand up for our rights and be firm, even forceful, without being rude.Of course, sometimes you have to be forceful enough the other party might think you are being rude. Act like you will answer to God for how you act, because you will.
- We must be honest. A care-provider cannot help you if you lie to them or withold information. Little things like what suplements or vitamins you are taking can make a difference in what treatment you need. If you are, for example, taking dandilion root every day but your doctor doesn't know it, he may prescribe too much insulin for you. Always tell them what is going on.
- We must do what we agree to do. If you agree to the treatment plan your doctor lays out, you must follow it. This is only right.
- We must be prepared for emergancies. We all need to keep a list with us at all times of what medications, supplements, vitamins and herbs we are taking and any medical treatment we are receiving so that if we were to end up in an emergancy room the staff will know how to care for us. It is a good idea to keep spare meds in your vehicle incase of evacuation, too. (Can you tell I live in wild fire country?)
- We must not be gullible. "100% of people who ate carrots in the year 1900 have DIED!" Be careful what you believe. Everything is not the truth as presented whether it is in the main-stream media or an alternative source. Check it out!
- Make decisions with your brain, not your emotions.
- We must know our drugs. Read your doctor's priscription and compare it with what the pharmacist gives you (including the dosage). People have died form getting the wrong medicine. Be sure you understand how to take it and what all the side effects are.
- We must make sure your bills get paid. No one likes to be cheated. Taking services you do not pay for is stealing.
- Report fraud. See above.
- Treat others the way you want to be treated. You get upset if someone passes a cold on to you who abviously knows they should have stayed home in bed. Treat them the same way. Stay home when you are sick.
- The Right to medical care. You won't find these in the Constitution (the foundational law of our land) or the Bible (the foundational law of the universe) no matter how hard you look. The US government has passed a law that no public hospital may turn away any patient even without insurance, but this is not the same as a right to treatment. It is the government generously using our tax dollars to pay other people's bills (something most of us actually don't object to except that we don't think it's good for our health for the government to have that much power).
Remember, be nice. Not a wimp, but polite.
American Thinker: America: Death by 'Intelligence,' Rebirth by 'Ignorance'
American Thinker: America: Death by 'Intelligence,' Rebirth by 'Ignorance'
If I were elected president, I think all my appointments would be requiered to:
1) Earn between $50,000 and $80,000 a year. If you earn more than that, you are disqualified.
2) Not have a college dgreee.
3) Be happily married with good children.
That should ensure I have truly smart people on my cabinet.
If I were elected president, I think all my appointments would be requiered to:
1) Earn between $50,000 and $80,000 a year. If you earn more than that, you are disqualified.
2) Not have a college dgreee.
3) Be happily married with good children.
That should ensure I have truly smart people on my cabinet.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Are Women Ditching Marriages Too Fast?
To Love, Honor and Vacuum: Are Women Ditching Marriages Too Fast?
One thing is for sure, with two single middle aged women for each single man, if you dump him you will likely be single for the rest of your life. I have known too many women who dumped their man thinking they would remarry right away. They have spent the rest of their lives alone.
One thing is for sure, with two single middle aged women for each single man, if you dump him you will likely be single for the rest of your life. I have known too many women who dumped their man thinking they would remarry right away. They have spent the rest of their lives alone.
Friday, January 07, 2011
Ban DHMO now!
http://www.joyfullyathomeblog.com/2010/05/thomas-sowell-on-artificial-stupidity.html
Beautiful picture....as long as it is in someone elses house!http://www.conversiondiary.com/2010/05/if-i-have-to-have-scorpion-in-my-toilet.html
Authority http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2010/06/biblical-authority-truth-is-not-truth-if-its-a-lie.html
Beautiful picture....as long as it is in someone elses house!http://www.conversiondiary.com/2010/05/if-i-have-to-have-scorpion-in-my-toilet.html
Authority http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2010/06/biblical-authority-truth-is-not-truth-if-its-a-lie.html
Thursday, January 06, 2011
Tuesday, January 04, 2011
"My Daddy-God in heaven, Your name is Wonderful, Councelor, THE Mighty God, THE Everlasting Father, My Prince of Peace, My King of Kings, My Lord of Lords!
"I pray for Your kingdom to be established in our home, our neighborhood, our state, our country, our planet. I pray for Your will to be done in all the hearts in our valley, our community and our governing bodies.
"Give us today those things we really need and give us contentment in the things we need instead of coveting those things others have and we want.
"Lead us not into temptation to sin and deliver us from all the evil around us.
"Forgive us of our sins and teach us how to forgive those that sin against us.
"Thank You for Your glorious world and all the blessings You have given us.
"Amen."
Most Likely To Succeed Though she says "What has changed the most about me in the last 20 years is not the likelihood of my success, but my willingness to admit that there might be something more important." I would say she is a tremendeous success. I once overheard a proffessional business consultant discussing success. He told the person he was talking to that he tells those he works with that success is 1) meeting your goals, 2)being respected. On both accounts both the author of this article and I are huge successes.
A primer on the R2K novelty, with a note on Servetus...
"I pray for Your kingdom to be established in our home, our neighborhood, our state, our country, our planet. I pray for Your will to be done in all the hearts in our valley, our community and our governing bodies.
"Give us today those things we really need and give us contentment in the things we need instead of coveting those things others have and we want.
"Lead us not into temptation to sin and deliver us from all the evil around us.
"Forgive us of our sins and teach us how to forgive those that sin against us.
"Thank You for Your glorious world and all the blessings You have given us.
"Amen."
Most Likely To Succeed Though she says "What has changed the most about me in the last 20 years is not the likelihood of my success, but my willingness to admit that there might be something more important." I would say she is a tremendeous success. I once overheard a proffessional business consultant discussing success. He told the person he was talking to that he tells those he works with that success is 1) meeting your goals, 2)being respected. On both accounts both the author of this article and I are huge successes.
A primer on the R2K novelty, with a note on Servetus...
Saturday, January 01, 2011
This story makes me cry
And it is absolutely true.
A woman in her early 40's found herself pregnant. She was having a hard time financially and was having trouble with drugs and all that lifestyle entails. She was a waitress at a restaurant and asked one of her regular customers to find an adoptive family for her baby. They did, but she went into labor very early. She and the baby both nearly died (he weighed 2 lbs). This experience, this nearly losing her child, caused her to keep her "unwanted baby," and to get her life straightened out. This happened four years ago and today she is a sober, productive, loving mom serving God. Her baby is a strong healthy four year old boy.
The regular customers who found an adoptive family were my parents. The almost-Adoptive family was my brother and his wife who passed away two years ago. They adopted three boys shortly after this incident. My brother would have had a hard time with a two year old at his wife's death, but the three brothers were just what he needed to get through that difficult time. And three little boys now have a family that wouldn't have had otherwise.
God knew what He was doing. This child conceived under the worst of circumstances was just what God used to bring a soul to Him. Babies really are from God no matter what it looks like to us.
A woman in her early 40's found herself pregnant. She was having a hard time financially and was having trouble with drugs and all that lifestyle entails. She was a waitress at a restaurant and asked one of her regular customers to find an adoptive family for her baby. They did, but she went into labor very early. She and the baby both nearly died (he weighed 2 lbs). This experience, this nearly losing her child, caused her to keep her "unwanted baby," and to get her life straightened out. This happened four years ago and today she is a sober, productive, loving mom serving God. Her baby is a strong healthy four year old boy.
The regular customers who found an adoptive family were my parents. The almost-Adoptive family was my brother and his wife who passed away two years ago. They adopted three boys shortly after this incident. My brother would have had a hard time with a two year old at his wife's death, but the three brothers were just what he needed to get through that difficult time. And three little boys now have a family that wouldn't have had otherwise.
God knew what He was doing. This child conceived under the worst of circumstances was just what God used to bring a soul to Him. Babies really are from God no matter what it looks like to us.
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