It is a common ploy for people to try to count everyone they possibly can as part of their victim group to try to make it bigger. For example, a woman who telecommutes, works at Walmart for the month December so she can buy Christmas presents, or writes articles for a magazine during her children's naps are all snagged by the feminists as "working moms" while those who promote mommy care would call them all SAHMs. We need to recognize that not all who CAN come under the same label should.
The above women have nothing at all in common with a high powered lawyer who works 60 hours a week and only sees her kids on weekends, for example.
So here's some clarification:
A woman who works outside the home so her children won't starve is a brave hero.
A woman who works outside the home so she can have a bigger house, fancier cars or vacations or clothes is selfish.
A woman who bottle feeds because she had a mastectomy, adopted the baby, or had another serious condition that simply couldn't be overcome is doing the best thing for herself and her family. (and praise God we now have the option of formula!)
A woman who bottle feeds because she wants to be able to leave the baby for long periods of time, wants to make hubby get up and feed in the middle of the night, or just doesn't want to bother is selfish.
A mom who has her baby circumsized because she did the research an decided it would be better to do this minor operation now than put her son at risk for cancer later is a thoughtful, intelligent woman.
A mom who has her baby circumcised because, well, that's just what you do, is an idiot.
A mom who spanks because she has researched and feels that is the best method of discipline is a good mom.
A mom who spanks because she is too mad to control herself is evil.
You get the point.
I jsut get so fe up with people using red herrings!
"Well my hubby left me for another woman so I had no choice but to put my children in daycare so you should never say anything bad about daycare."
Well, honey, you are brave and strong and have been handed a hard lot. You are doing the best you can.
That doesn't change the fact that children do better with mommy than with paid strangers. It just doesn't.
My neighbor who absolutely had to have that fancy house and new car was downright evil for putting her baby in daycare instead of making do and raising her own child on her hubby's income.
Let's be reasonable, people!
The above women have nothing at all in common with a high powered lawyer who works 60 hours a week and only sees her kids on weekends, for example.
So here's some clarification:
A woman who works outside the home so her children won't starve is a brave hero.
A woman who works outside the home so she can have a bigger house, fancier cars or vacations or clothes is selfish.
A woman who bottle feeds because she had a mastectomy, adopted the baby, or had another serious condition that simply couldn't be overcome is doing the best thing for herself and her family. (and praise God we now have the option of formula!)
A woman who bottle feeds because she wants to be able to leave the baby for long periods of time, wants to make hubby get up and feed in the middle of the night, or just doesn't want to bother is selfish.
A mom who has her baby circumsized because she did the research an decided it would be better to do this minor operation now than put her son at risk for cancer later is a thoughtful, intelligent woman.
A mom who has her baby circumcised because, well, that's just what you do, is an idiot.
A mom who spanks because she has researched and feels that is the best method of discipline is a good mom.
A mom who spanks because she is too mad to control herself is evil.
You get the point.
I jsut get so fe up with people using red herrings!
"Well my hubby left me for another woman so I had no choice but to put my children in daycare so you should never say anything bad about daycare."
Well, honey, you are brave and strong and have been handed a hard lot. You are doing the best you can.
That doesn't change the fact that children do better with mommy than with paid strangers. It just doesn't.
My neighbor who absolutely had to have that fancy house and new car was downright evil for putting her baby in daycare instead of making do and raising her own child on her hubby's income.
Let's be reasonable, people!
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