I just finished reading “The Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr Laura. This is not the first book of hers that I have read. I have enjoyed them all to one extent or another.
Her basic premise in this one is that feminist rhetoric has caused modern women to become down right rude and selfish with their hubbies. Many women will be far more careful to speak with love to their friends than to their man.
She is right in her observations. In fact, I found her advice to be common sense, logic and just plan polite.
I highly recommend all women read this book.
It seriously disturbs me the prevailing attitude that men are the enemy and women the victims. The truth is that women are just as intelligent and powerful and men are, and always have been.
Let's face it, men want sex. Though women like sex they don't need it the way men do. There was a time when the only way a man could get what he wanted (sex) was to give a woman what she wanted (security- far more important to most women). Thus, sex didn't happen until marriage.
The main reason women held out for the official commitment was because biology dictates a pregnant woman or a woman with small children is very vulnerable. She may be able to care for herself, but it is a stress and exhausting. It is much easier to bring a life into this world if you can take a nap in the middle of the day!
By holding out on sex until marriage women were guaranteed the financial support they needed at these times of weakness. It was understood from the start that men and women were partners in the production of tomorrow's world.
Then came birth control and, especially, abortion. Now sex was divorced from reproduction and women had no trump card to hold ("What if I get pregnant?"). If she did get pregnant it was her fault for missing her pill or she could just end it. It had nothing to do with the man.
Add to this the feminists preaching the virtues of "giving the milk away for free."
Today, men can get all the sex they want for free (or the price of a drink). So they have no motivation to make a permanent commitment. The woman is still weaker during those biologically determined early years of a child's life, but now she knows she can't depend on any man.
This frustrates and angers many women, making them snarkey to their men. And men feel helpless and unimportant.
It's time we recognized the damage done by the feminist ideology and rebuild our lives to give everyone what they need:
Her basic premise in this one is that feminist rhetoric has caused modern women to become down right rude and selfish with their hubbies. Many women will be far more careful to speak with love to their friends than to their man.
She is right in her observations. In fact, I found her advice to be common sense, logic and just plan polite.
News flash- “Hubbies have feelings, dreams and plans too!”
I highly recommend all women read this book.
It seriously disturbs me the prevailing attitude that men are the enemy and women the victims. The truth is that women are just as intelligent and powerful and men are, and always have been.
Let's face it, men want sex. Though women like sex they don't need it the way men do. There was a time when the only way a man could get what he wanted (sex) was to give a woman what she wanted (security- far more important to most women). Thus, sex didn't happen until marriage.
The main reason women held out for the official commitment was because biology dictates a pregnant woman or a woman with small children is very vulnerable. She may be able to care for herself, but it is a stress and exhausting. It is much easier to bring a life into this world if you can take a nap in the middle of the day!
By holding out on sex until marriage women were guaranteed the financial support they needed at these times of weakness. It was understood from the start that men and women were partners in the production of tomorrow's world.
Then came birth control and, especially, abortion. Now sex was divorced from reproduction and women had no trump card to hold ("What if I get pregnant?"). If she did get pregnant it was her fault for missing her pill or she could just end it. It had nothing to do with the man.
Add to this the feminists preaching the virtues of "giving the milk away for free."
Today, men can get all the sex they want for free (or the price of a drink). So they have no motivation to make a permanent commitment. The woman is still weaker during those biologically determined early years of a child's life, but now she knows she can't depend on any man.
This frustrates and angers many women, making them snarkey to their men. And men feel helpless and unimportant.
It's time we recognized the damage done by the feminist ideology and rebuild our lives to give everyone what they need:
- Support for women and children
- Respect and importance for men
- Sex for both!
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