Ohio Mother is Modern Day Rosa Parks - Big Government
Differences between small and large families...
Government Isn't the Parent
"If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them as you think you should and half the amount of money.
- Esther Selsdon
British novelist and travel writer via Dr Laura
Use your Authority, not your Power.
I have never disciplined a teenager. I have a 19yo, 16yo and one who will be 13 next month. I have never had to punish anyone with "teen" added to their age.
I believe you teach them well when they are little (up to about two) and you seldom have problems after that. That has certainly born out in my children.
Which Parenting Culture is Best?
More on Chinese Mothers, Parenting, and Verbal Abuse
Amen!
And here are what my dc are required to do before they can graduate from our homeschool:
- Read the Bible through, cover to cover, at least once (and more often is strongly encouraged.)
- Understand and have good character and manners.
- Know as many good, scriptural hymns as I do.
- Play the piano good enough to play in church.
- Play a string instrument.
- Play a wind instrument.
- Be able to draw. (anyone can achieve a minimal level of skill in both drawing and music. Not everyone can be a Da Vinci or a Mozart, but everyone can learn the fundamentals.)
- Be able to express themselves in writing and speech.
- Understand basic health.
- Of course some miscellaneous "regular" subjects too (see abeka.com and Mathusee.com)
It really does matter where mom is. Did you know that in some parts of Europe they value mothers and their work enough to give them a YEAR of maternity leave? Now, I don't actually believe the government shoudl tell a business owner how best to treat his employees, but this demonstrates the value they place on children. We Americans don't really like kids at all and certainly don't think they are as important as money.
Go to Your Room!
From my e-friend Carla Hartley:
- Don't let your "inner child" raise your children. Don't be the parent you wanted. Be the parent your children need, and that really means being the parent EACH child needs.
- Your goal as a parent is to work yourself out of a job. Teach your children to make choices and to accept the reality that there are consequences for all choices.
- Be sure that as you introduce the world to your child that you introduce your child to the world. My young children knew that they were part of every aspect of my life and that even my acquaintances knew them by name. The world knew they were mine and I was theirs. Kids want to belong.
- Children should NOT get their way about everything. They need some rules and restrictions. Children do not want to be the most powerful person in their world. If you can't stand up TO them, how confident will they be that you can stand up FOR them. It is a big world out there to little kids and they need someone ELSE to be in charge.
- Parent with intention and authenticity. Children won't hear what you say as clearly as they see what you do. You don't just live with your children; you live in front of them. Do that carefully.
Should a Child's Room be a Castle?
“Do Large Families Burden the Older Children?” If we still lived in a time when we had no choice in the size of our family, no one would even ask this question.And it was this time that produced, well, all of history including all the great men and women that ever lived.
Holding your baby may save his life.
I even heard of a grandpa giving kangaroo care. He was an MD. Dad was unavailable and they had an emergancy c-section. Grandpa held his grandbaby on his bare chest until she stabalized.
"A ritual is a patterned, repetitive, and symbolic enactment of a cultural belief or value; its primary purpose is alignment of the belief system of the individual with that of society. A rite of passage is a series of rituals that move individuals from one social state or status to another as, for example, from girlhood to womanhood, boyhood to manhood, or from the womb to the world of culture. Rites of passage transform both society’s perception of individuals and individuals’s perceptions of themselves." Yep. That's American childbirth.
The Benefits of Boredom
Our society is so mixed up we think what is normal is childabuse and what is childabuse is normal! Really, sending your baby to be bullied on a daily basis is abuse. Loving your child enough to want to be with them is not.
Two under two Anna tells us how life is going with a new baby. THIS is how it's supposed to be. THIS is normal.
"Most conventional doctors are nutritionally illiterate. So are most parents. And if we wish to change the health future of America, this situation obviously needs to change. Nutrition should be the foundation of med school training, not an afterthought."
Want smart kids? Turn the TV off and take them outside to play.
$150?! For ONE pair of jeans?!?! For a child who will probably outgrow them in six months?!?!?! Goodness, I could buy enough jeans to get all ten of us through the next six months (when you count hand me downs) and throw in a couple of t-shirts for that!
Eagle Forum Blog: The NEA Wants to Teach Kids about Sex
The Case for Siblings -Why having a new baby is good for your other kids. So true. Mine always love their new sibs and are asking for a new one way before I am, lol. Like, the week after the bith they are ready to go again!
Old fashioned Housewives or new fangled "Home Managers?" Either way, it just makes sense. "'The best person to look after my children is me" You just can't argue with it.
Great sermon of disciplining children.
Planning for marriage.
Do parents need to be emancipated from the duties of parenthood? All I can say is, "Amen, Dr, Amen."
Spanking
Non-Christian Education Is Sin, Spiritual Child Abuse
What it is, and what it's not
Whata beautiful article. And I would usually exempt this woman from the "Keeper at Home" command. We could all learn alot from her. Everyday Miracles
Domestic Felicity: Spending time with our children, in joy and love
So True and So Precious Here
Great article. I haven't read the rest of the site, but enjoyed this account of a Canadian woman breastfeeding in Mongolia.
Children….Blessings but….
Where should baby sleep?
Co-sleeping vs baby in his own bed
Or is there another way? (Loved this article! Exactly right on.)
Why women are…
Going Crazy and Wanting to Go Back to Work?
You try taking on three different major life changes at once and see how sane you stay!
Education: A Christian Perspective
A beautiful summery of what should be every Christian parent’s thought pattern should be. Education is the most important issue in our children's childhood.
EpiphanyWant an end to the unemployment crisis? Want to instantly raise wages? Want to virtually end juvenile delinquency, learning disabilities, ADHD, and a whole host of other problems? Guess what? Mommies ARE important!
To Hold or Not to Hold: Baby Detachment?
The Value of Time
Think of this next time you tell your child “just a minute” or you choose your pleasure over time with your babies.
A Place Where We Meet God and God Meets Us
The results of parenting without a long term vision.
Should you stay together for the children?
The American Myth of Divorce
Basics of Child Training
“Foundational to everything is the understanding of WHY it is so important to invest the time and energy it will take into raising pleasant, obedient children.” There is no point in doing the hard work of parenting if you don’t think it's important!
http://generationcedar.blogspot.com/2009/01/basics-of-child-training.html
Parenting While Thinking Ahead http://makinghome.blogspot.com/2007/12/parenting-while-thinking-ahead.html
Great advise and something too few parents do. As I said in a previous post, I am not raising children; I am raising adults. I make every decision (or at least try to) with that goal in my mind.
Actually, I am raising a legacy of warriors to worship at the feet of my King.
This requires that I be diligent in changing bad habits, educating the brain, and feeding the soul.
This is what parenting is about.
When does childhood end and adulthood begin? Many of our adult-ecents are living in never-never land.
http://terrysoapbox.blogspot.com/2007/10/living-in-neverland.html
The “Me time” myth.
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Raisingarrows/432782/
Mommy Life: On Growing Kids the Ezzo Way
I have not read the Ezzos myself, but I have heard too many horror stories and the little bit I have heard even from those that like them really doesn't sound right. This lady's opinion sounds right.
Raising Children Who Crave “the Meat”
http://www.generationcedar.com/main/2009/05/raising-children-who-crave-the-meat.html
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